Brillant reframing that boundaries aren't selfish but actually kind. The point about inviting their boundaries first totally shifts the power dynamic from defensive to collaborative. I learned the hard way that announcing a boundry once but not holding it just teaches people to ignore it next time.
When we see boundaries as expressions of self-respect that others deserve, we start treating boundaries with much more ease and understanding (and others start to do that too).
Brillant reframing that boundaries aren't selfish but actually kind. The point about inviting their boundaries first totally shifts the power dynamic from defensive to collaborative. I learned the hard way that announcing a boundry once but not holding it just teaches people to ignore it next time.
When we see boundaries as expressions of self-respect that others deserve, we start treating boundaries with much more ease and understanding (and others start to do that too).
Absolutely love the emphasis on kind and consistent boundaries rather than intense and inconsistent ones!
Kind consistency is the hallmark of an effective and wise human being.