Boost Your EQ to Boost Your Relationships:
Hello friend! 👋
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the cornerstone of positive relationships, whether at work or at home.
Developing EQ can enhance your interactions, build deeper connections, and improve overall well-being.
1. Build awareness
(define the concept)
The term "emotional intelligence" was coined by psychologists Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer in 1990.
However, in 1995 it gained widespread popularity through Dr. Daniel Goleman's book; Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.
Research shows that high EQ leads to better communication, conflict resolution, and positive relationships.
How?
Let me bring it home with the wise words of Maya Angelou:
'I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.'
2. Make these choices:
(decisions/actions to bring it to life)
Practice active listening:
Fully engage in conversations without interrupting. Most people listen just to reply, yet it pays back dividends if we listen to understand.Manage your emotions:
Recognize your emotional triggers and develop strategies to stay calm and composed.Show appreciation:
Express gratitude and acknowledge the efforts of others regularly. This builds positive relationships and mutual respect.Communicate assertively (and with kindness):
Be clear and direct while remaining respectful. Avoid passive or aggressive communication styles.
3. Build them in a system:
(using the science of habit and willpower to make it consistent)
The best way to build a system for training your emotional intelligence is to have a solid mindfulness practice.
By definition, it is a practice, i.e. it requires regular engagement.
The more attuned to your own emotions you are, the more ‘intelligent’ you become about understanding and managing them.
Which of the choices you will try this week?
Have a Super Sunday!
With much joy,
Hashim